This is so heartfelt and warm and sad at some places. I am trying to form words but this is just so emotional. Congratulations to you for the daughter. I am sure your wife appreciates your presence, kudos to you for writing this. More strength 💌
I honestly can't recall the words that would help me capture the feelings I had while reading this wonderful piece. Congratulations on your little girl, I have a girl of my own and they are the best. Hope you continue writing such heartfelt and thought provoking pieces.
This piece was all heart! 💕The only thing I can say is that “it’s ok” to feel useless at times. Just be there for your girls.
And most importantly, f*** the labels - whether alpha or softy! 😖 These labels are just meant to put people into uncomfortable boxes because humans get lazy to understand nuances.
Oh my god! This is one of the best things I've read on the internet today. No this week. I mean, this month. Just ordered your book. One for me, one for a friend. Congratulations for becoming a dad and also a published author.
This is beautifully written. The strength it takes to write this and share it so openly really shows. Congratulations!! Your beautiful angel is incredibly lucky to have you as her father ❤️🩹
what a beautiful post abhishek bhaiya (doosre wale), the courage it must have took to write something so vulnerable, i am genuinely proud of you for writing this. the part about where you described seeing your daughter for the first time had me in tears, and congratulations to you both, I am sure you'll be an amazing father to her. i am glad this was my first read after coming back to the platform.
it was not an easy thing to write and I had my fair share of doubts in this. but glad i could post it and you all have been very supportive of this. thank you :)
"She chose me as her father" - the fact that you realized it's a responsibility as much as it is a privilege, only a man can understand this feeling i guess. You have a way of saying complex things in simple words. Congratulations, and I'm sure that you would be an amazing father :)
to be perfectly candid, i don’t think i’m really mature enough to gauge accurately or even pretend to have some semblance of understanding about your experiences with masculinity. mine have been vain and fragile in their limited existence but reading this piece felt kaafi heavy — i loved how caring and loving someone can actually be numbing when your overwhelmed by the excess of it all. you have a way of making simplicity palatable in the most intense ways — loved this. you’re a great dad and husband dude — cheers!
was waiting for your comment on this and the honesty with which you put your point forward is what I really like. what you said is correct. we are not on the same plane but maybe one day when you will have something similar, I would love to discuss it with you. till then let’s experience life as it comes.
Abhishek, there was always a girl dad energy that I got from you and I now I know why. Congratulations on being her favourite person already ❤️ The post was obviously wonderful, there is never any doubt about it. I have seen my own partner struggle with showing emotions where everyone kept saying you have to be strong. What does strong even mean? It's something I am sure he wonders about. I will make him read this.
Apart from your lighthearted gluten-free essay, I have to say this was heavy but that’s okay. Sometimes the heavy things make us truly value the light things in life.
When you mentioned being the crying child I felt that deeply because I am that child, too. I’ve carried that identity for a long time. So many of your statements felt real, they captured scenes that happen in real life but are rarely shown on screen.You articulated that being a man, being brave, and being emotional isn't something shouted from the rooftops. These traits are often celebrated only in silence, which is an injustice. I love how you highlighted this uncelebrated side of manhood, making it understandable, valuable, and necessary. To be honest, it’s simply being human.I am not necessarily 'happy' after reading this, but I am certainly proud of the brave man who wrote and shared it. Now, every man who encounters this will be encouraged to be brave, enough to be vulnerable to be emotions. This impact will create a new kind of soldier : the brave, emotionally honest man.
I agree. behind all the labels, we have forgotten that being human and feeling all emotions is something that we all should be comfortable with. so glad you liked it and you've perfectly captured the essence of the essay.
such heavy essays won't be a regular feature but once in a while when it gets too overwhelming, I will pen those thoughts down. until then it is business as usual with my light hearted posts :)
thank you for reading this and sharing your thoughts Priyee. :)
I will agree with all feelings roller coaster ride all highs all lows post it's always welcomed for my reading greed necessity and surely you are an amazing author your words just hits to brain enough to create the detailed visuals and to heart enough to create a space of emotions to be felt. Keep creating stuffs like this it's an honour to read posts from you :)
Abhishek, thank you for writing this. I mean it when I say finding pieces like this has made this space worth it. Truly.
Thank you so much Kanchan ji :)
This is so heartfelt and warm and sad at some places. I am trying to form words but this is just so emotional. Congratulations to you for the daughter. I am sure your wife appreciates your presence, kudos to you for writing this. More strength 💌
Not everything can be put into words and I take this as a big compliment! Thank you :)
I hope I'm able to make my girls feel good!
I honestly can't recall the words that would help me capture the feelings I had while reading this wonderful piece. Congratulations on your little girl, I have a girl of my own and they are the best. Hope you continue writing such heartfelt and thought provoking pieces.
Thank you Sushma for giving time to this piece. Girls are the best, I agree! I hope I bring out the best in my writings. Thank you for the support :)
This piece was all heart! 💕The only thing I can say is that “it’s ok” to feel useless at times. Just be there for your girls.
And most importantly, f*** the labels - whether alpha or softy! 😖 These labels are just meant to put people into uncomfortable boxes because humans get lazy to understand nuances.
Thank you for reading this Namrata! And I'm trying to be there for them :)
Oh my god! This is one of the best things I've read on the internet today. No this week. I mean, this month. Just ordered your book. One for me, one for a friend. Congratulations for becoming a dad and also a published author.
this comment cheered me up. thank you Sunaina! I hope you like the book. Can't wait to discuss :)
Sitting in the office cafeteria reading this, trying not to cry, almost failing ;_;
:')
thank you
Abhishek!! The man that you are!! I hope to find someone who loves like you 🩷
these are really big words. thank you. I hope you get someone who loves you for who you are :)
"no one prepares you for the deafening silence of tough times." - that's a deep comment.
It's a good life. It's a tough life. You spend it flexing muscles while juggling fireballs and being chased on thin ice.
Thanks for baring out the mental gymnastics that each one of us do everyday. People called it adulting but you exposed the truth!
Wishing the your Wife, a speedy recovery!
thank you for reading @Bonny Singh :)
wasn’t easy to share but I guess I could do some justice to it. happy to see you resonate with it too
This was such a great read,to understand men better! Societal pressure spares no one..
Thank you for reading Sana. Societal pressures do get you sometimes
It is tough indeed. But hey, a little softness is all we need sometimes. And a hug can usually cure some of our anxiety.
true. but it takes time to understand
A looootttt. But you got this!
This is beautifully written. The strength it takes to write this and share it so openly really shows. Congratulations!! Your beautiful angel is incredibly lucky to have you as her father ❤️🩹
thank you for reading this and for the kind words Pushya. I'm trying to be better :)
what a beautiful post abhishek bhaiya (doosre wale), the courage it must have took to write something so vulnerable, i am genuinely proud of you for writing this. the part about where you described seeing your daughter for the first time had me in tears, and congratulations to you both, I am sure you'll be an amazing father to her. i am glad this was my first read after coming back to the platform.
haha, the clarification in the beginning xP
it was not an easy thing to write and I had my fair share of doubts in this. but glad i could post it and you all have been very supportive of this. thank you :)
"She chose me as her father" - the fact that you realized it's a responsibility as much as it is a privilege, only a man can understand this feeling i guess. You have a way of saying complex things in simple words. Congratulations, and I'm sure that you would be an amazing father :)
thank you Faizan for giving this a read. I’m trying my best to be a really good father.
You have a way of saying complex things in simple words — this made me smile! thank you :)
to be perfectly candid, i don’t think i’m really mature enough to gauge accurately or even pretend to have some semblance of understanding about your experiences with masculinity. mine have been vain and fragile in their limited existence but reading this piece felt kaafi heavy — i loved how caring and loving someone can actually be numbing when your overwhelmed by the excess of it all. you have a way of making simplicity palatable in the most intense ways — loved this. you’re a great dad and husband dude — cheers!
was waiting for your comment on this and the honesty with which you put your point forward is what I really like. what you said is correct. we are not on the same plane but maybe one day when you will have something similar, I would love to discuss it with you. till then let’s experience life as it comes.
thank you for reading and all the kind words :)
Abhishek, there was always a girl dad energy that I got from you and I now I know why. Congratulations on being her favourite person already ❤️ The post was obviously wonderful, there is never any doubt about it. I have seen my own partner struggle with showing emotions where everyone kept saying you have to be strong. What does strong even mean? It's something I am sure he wonders about. I will make him read this.
haha. this is the first time I'm hearing that I gave out girl dad energy. how does one know? (do they crack better jokes xP)
thank you for reading this and adding these wonderful comments :)
one can show strength in multiple ways but I guess we got stuck with being stoic and physical strength. I hope your partner likes it :)
Apart from your lighthearted gluten-free essay, I have to say this was heavy but that’s okay. Sometimes the heavy things make us truly value the light things in life.
When you mentioned being the crying child I felt that deeply because I am that child, too. I’ve carried that identity for a long time. So many of your statements felt real, they captured scenes that happen in real life but are rarely shown on screen.You articulated that being a man, being brave, and being emotional isn't something shouted from the rooftops. These traits are often celebrated only in silence, which is an injustice. I love how you highlighted this uncelebrated side of manhood, making it understandable, valuable, and necessary. To be honest, it’s simply being human.I am not necessarily 'happy' after reading this, but I am certainly proud of the brave man who wrote and shared it. Now, every man who encounters this will be encouraged to be brave, enough to be vulnerable to be emotions. This impact will create a new kind of soldier : the brave, emotionally honest man.
I agree. behind all the labels, we have forgotten that being human and feeling all emotions is something that we all should be comfortable with. so glad you liked it and you've perfectly captured the essence of the essay.
such heavy essays won't be a regular feature but once in a while when it gets too overwhelming, I will pen those thoughts down. until then it is business as usual with my light hearted posts :)
thank you for reading this and sharing your thoughts Priyee. :)
I will agree with all feelings roller coaster ride all highs all lows post it's always welcomed for my reading greed necessity and surely you are an amazing author your words just hits to brain enough to create the detailed visuals and to heart enough to create a space of emotions to be felt. Keep creating stuffs like this it's an honour to read posts from you :)
I'm here for the long run so you can expect a lot more!
thank you for all your support :)
Am a fan, Am a fan already 😎